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Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

For Len and Thora...




This was the telegram my Great Aunt Thora was waiting for…
My Great Uncle Leonard had been in England, France, Belgium and Holland fighting the Germans from April of 1944 until May 5 of 1945. 
He remained in Europe until January of 1946.
This photo was probably taken in Victoria before he was shipped off to England.
Last night I re read his diary he kept during that time. 
I sat in my bedroom with Big Band music playing on my iPhone. 
I could almost imagine it being a transistor radio with it’s ‘small’ sound.
The rain was coming down hard last night which was echoed in Uncle Leonard’s entries of his days and nights in the pouring rain, in the trenches in Normandy.
About a third of the way through the power went out due to a wind storm 
and I finished it by candlelight.
Many of his words speak of the longing for home, his wife and peace.
At one point he was in the thick of it during the Battle of Caen, 
a very strategic turning point for the Allies.
 For some reason he never understood, a bomb hit his tent, a piece of the shell tearing through it, smashing one side of the desk he was hiding under and buried itself in the ground just short of his head. In his words “How I ever escaped being hit will always seem a miracle to me.”
I read the fear between the lines.
I also found these papers amongst his telegrams.
One was to aid them if they were lost or captured...
(the pamphlet also has the same phrases in Dutch, Spanish and German)
If you look at the top of this one it explains how he acquired it in his handwriting.
(Slang for Germans was the term 'Jerry')
Imagine that he carried these around with him for almost 2 years.
His treks through ruined towns and villages had an immense impact on him.
He says at one point “What I can see, the civilians seem to suffer worse than the armies concerned.” 
“The refugees still keep coming out of Caen and a sorry looking lot they are. To see them gives you a rotten feeling in the pit of your stomach. Thank God! Our wives, brothers, sisters and families don’t have to go through this.”
He speaks a lot of the children and how undernourished they look but on a lighter note states that “The children have learned the words ‘gum’ and ‘cigarette’ which they ask for everywhere we go. We are leaving a trail of gum, candy and cigarettes across France."
Here he is on the right with a buddy...
He describes being in the countryside of France once and how on July 18, 1944 “It was such a lovely morning that one could hardly realize that death and turmoil lay all around me.” 
And so it went for him and so many others, trying their best to stay safe and come home.
Which he did eventually.
Uncle Leonard on the left during a lighter moment of the war...I don't know what became of the others in the photo...let's hope they had a happy ending too.
He and my Aunt Thora went back to Europe a few times and on one visit revisited the small town of Oss in Holland. They searched out the house where Uncle Leonard had stayed during the last days of the war, which he had always remembered so fondly because of the kindness of the family. The family still lived in the same house and celebrated the return of the Canadian soldier with a big party that went on all night!
Remembrance Day is a time of intensity for many including myself. For it’s these stories that flow through time and which should be told over and over, never to be forgotten.
For us all to know the dedicated sacrifice which so many made.
For us. For Freedom. For this privileged life we live here in this country.
I didn’t know my Uncle very well since he died quite a number of years ago but I’m so grateful that he kept such an important diary. 
And thanks to my mom who painstakingly re wrote (on a typewriter!) all of the pages and transcribed them into a book for our family to have.
Lest we forget.

(The last telegram my Aunt Thora received...probably the most welcome one of all...)

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

In search of The Great Pumpkin...


Thanksgiving weekend was full of family and food!
My Aunt hosted a huge family reunion and I was able to connect
with many loved ones I don't get to see often enough.
I stayed the night out at my folks place with my awesome nieces
and we took advantage of the dry-ish weather to visit the local pumpkin patch...
What can I say about a field full of these plump orange orbs?
Always a favourite to photograph...
Brother Dan, affectionately known as BroGorman, thought so too...
Seems to be a quintessential autumn thing to do...
Wandering up and down the rows, looking for just the right one...
Exploring all the angles...
And then...Yes! This one...definitely this is the one she wanted!
We took a little drive up to the top of the hill and found this pretty boy...
Hello beautiful!
Oh and we found the best little pigpen too...
This big boy was separated from the gals...
I supposed he was only there for his...ahem...services...
Even though he had a smirk on his face, I felt a bit lonely for him...
Ah yes, the girl from the country who comes to visit her folks and roams around looking 
at other peoples country scenes...
It's different out here though. Flat farm lands...big open spaces...my home is amongst the woods
and sometimes I long for the views of the valleys and fields...
So a lovely weekend with family...so many of the babies I once knew all grown
up with babies of their own. 
That's the way though isn't it? 
Life marches on in wondrous ways.
Cherish these times.

Monday, August 10, 2015

Just a little note to my sister...


It's been 4 years today that we lost Tracy.
If I could tell her anything it would be this:
Be proud of your girls.
They are growing up to be such wonderful and lovely people.
They have your beauty, yours and Steve's sense of humour, your love of animals
and your taste for adventure.
Most of all they share a love for family which you always had.
Don't ever worry, Steve takes such good care of them and 
we do what we can whenever we can.
We miss you every day.

Monday, February 11, 2013

Treasures old and new...

Yesterday I went for a visit to see my folks who live about an hours drive
and to catch up with my older brother Dan who came
for the day from the Mainland.
It's always good to see each other and these visits I treasure
since they are too few and far between. Life is busy and
it's not always easy to co-ordinate every ones schedule.
While my mom and I sat having tea, she brought out a few
things she wanted to pass down to me.
The first was this locket which belonged to my
Great Uncle Bill's mother-in-law.
 It was a graduation gift from her parents.
What beautiful engraving it has!
 I remember my mom wearing it with love.
Inside she has a picture of Great Uncle Bill and my dad at around the same age.
 The picture of my dad on the right, was taken on their honeymoon in Niagara Falls, Ontario...
 My Uncle Bill is gone now but when he was alive,
him and my dad were the best of friends.
He was my mom's favorite uncle as well, hence the
significance of the photos she carried in the locket.
She then gave me another locket which belonged to my Great Aunt Thora...
My Great Uncle Len gave it to her during the war.
We're not sure if he sent it from overseas or had someone give it to her here...
She  also gave me this photo of my Great Grandad Cairns...
She wrote a little note on the back explaining that the picture was taken just before he went
off to fight in WW1. He looks quite pensive....justifiably so.
 The frame was a gift to my mom after graduating from nursing school in 1971.
 These are the stories that begin to fade in time when people grow old and pass on.
Then my brother came to the table and brought with him a belated birthday gift.
He is an art lover and is always searching out beautiful and interesting things for me.
Here is the gorgeous card by Diane Kremmer called "Watchful Eyes Under Sickle Moon"..
To go along with the crow theme, this beautiful big mug from Mexico and my favorite tea...
Something else he brought was a handmade tribute album of pictures of my late sister Tracy...
 As he does with all of his projects, he spent many hours printing old photos onto
special paper and adding his own cut out birds and designs to go along with the pictures...
My last post was about losing and finding things in the thrift shop and so will some
of these items become lost in time. The stories will have gaps and question marks someday.
But for now I will keep them all close to my heart and tell the stories as best I can.
Keeping the past alive.
These photos in the silver locket dated 1942 are self evident.
I'll wear this with love on Valentines day for Len and Thora.
 



Wednesday, December 8, 2010

A life well lived...

This is Marge Duncan...nee Cairns.
 Better known to some as 'mom'.
Best known to me as 'gramma'.
Born on the small island of Saltspring on a snowy Christmas night in 1921.
Too snowy for Doctor Maxwell to make it to the farm to deliver this baby girl,
so it was left up to 'Aunt Emily',
(shown with her father and sister, San, the following summer)
She grew up on this island...
Until she met the handsome Gerry Duncan...
They were married in 1939 and moved to Victoria.
 It was there where 9 babies were born to them.
My mom was the first.
And then 2 boys and finally a baby sister!
And then 5 more boys!
And one more boy, a nephew, who was wrapped up in the warm light of one big family.
One more brother for all to love
This was my gramma.
Full of love for children.
 Full of kindness to all.
Her own, her kin and any others that came into the house.
She was married to my grampa for over 57 years...
Giving faith to true love and commitment.
  Baby fussing?
Give it to gramma.
Soon the babe would fall asleep in her arms.
Naturally.
Even in latter stages of dementia, 
the latest of the great grandchildren could be rocked into dreamland by my gramma.
 Her characteristic giggles while saying hello and grabbing your hands to pull you towards her were also evident until the end.
Without the ability to speak anymore, there was still the knowledge of grand smiles and gripping hand holding.
 Ever so kind.
Ever so beautiful.
Ever so loving.
Ever so loved.
My gramma died peacefully in her sleep, early Sunday morning.
Typically, not bothering anyone.
Marge's life lingers on through us, her kin and keeps this wonderful person alive and well.
We are all better people from knowing her.
We all get the giggles from her.